Hi, 
I don't have a 320L but I have several 320's and 325's.  I tried to figure out a similar issue but quickly discovered some major problems.  The main one as I recall is that everybody I know has a Dynamic IP, meaning you or the other end will periodically get a new IP address.  Since the backup software requires a numeric IP address, xxx.xxx.xx.123, you will have to regularly monitor your actual IP address.  This pretty much stopped me because it's hardly automatic.  Also, there is no way I can think of that would not give access to any of your files on the remote NAS, and the same on the other end.  So if I understood you correctly, I don't think there is any automatic way to do what you want to.  If security on both ends is not an issue and "automatic" is not a necessity, you both could just set up your ftp server with DDNS accounts and do a manual backup but speed could be a problem if you are moving a lot of data.  Just my thoughts.  Good luck.