"but I cannot log on to my own wireless server"
What exactly do you mean by that? Do you mean you cannot access the routers web access/setup page? Or are you speaking of internet access? Well, I guess either way you would still need to set up your LAN information for your ethernet card on the machine in question. You know what I'm saying? In other words, you have to set up the system for your specific home LAN, assuming that you have set up security on it. I would go back to the basics and make sure that ALL of your systems are set up the same way in regards to the NAME of your home network (they must be the same), the security key...etc...etc. Also, I've found in the past when I've had difficulty connecting all of the system on my LAN, that if you "Enable" SSID Broadcasting, at least temporarily until you get connected, they often times had an easier time connecting. Afterwards you can disable the broadcast of SSID so everyone in your neighborhood won't see it. Is there any type of errors that you get?